With baby #2 on the way Josh and I knew that we wanted me home with both kids but we hadn't really thought of the option of having me stay home BEFORE #2 comes. No matter how we tried the finances just didn't add up to have me stay home. However, we both knew it was time, Logan is to the age that he needed to be at his home. Our insurance also doesn't cover anything on baby, so we thought where Josh will be graduating in May we could have some assistance through taxes for the next few months and help us pay for baby in June. Yes I've felt very badly of having assistance but I feel we'll pay it forward through our lifetime, it's not longterm. I went back and forth on feeling like I NEED to work because I can, and feeling like I NEED to be home with Logan. I talked to several different people about this subject.
My sister was the best person to seek advice from. She told me when she was in this point where she decided to stay home with my niece that on paper the finance never did add up but once they made the choice to have her home that it just all fell in place. Also, that I wouldn't have any regrets later in life about staying home and struggling, verses working and being financially stable. Josh and I talked a lot also and he said the most tender things about our decisions to have me home. He said right now our family doesn't need money but instead a Mommy in the home to show love to our Logan, Money will come later.
As I told my boss of my last day I still didn't have a feeling of relief and even today as I sit home on my first day as a stay at home mom I don't. I worry to much about things, But I can say this me being home is the best thing for our family right now. I just hope all else will fall in place :)
Here's to my new JOB, a Mom!!
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I totally understand how you feel. Don't worry. Once you get used to staying home and start seeing how everything falls into place you'll feel better. Also, sounds like you could use some mommy bonding time. We'll have to have you guys over to play. The kids can tear Ella's room apart and we can just sit and be pregnant together :)
CONGRATS on baby #2 and on being able to stay at home. I'm sure you've heard it a million times but everything will work out! I hope everything is going well for you guys. Sure miss ya
I have no doubt that Logan will love his mommy being home to play with every day :) I think it will be so fun especially now that he is getting so big and talkative. And what a great way to spend some quality time with him before baby comes! Love you sis!
Thanks for sharing your experience and thoughts. You have strengthened me and my understanding. I agree with you in so many ways. First, I think it is so personal for each couple in their decisions on this matter. Mom working or not working. I also feel like there are times and seasons for everything in our lives.
There is always something to worry about but in the end you will not regret staying home. I worked for about a month after Marley was 12 weeks old. Then we moved and we decided I was going to be a stay at home mom even though Nate was in grad school. It was hard. It is still hard and I sometimes think about looking at job listings. But, when I think about going to work and missing the hilarious and fun things Marley learns and says and does it makes me SO grateful that it is working out. Not exactly the way I want (financially) but we are always making ends meet.
Kerra! I love this post because it actually says how you feel. I remember talking to you about this at work and you were always so uplifting and so convinced that everything will just work out. I always felt better after talking to you about stuff like this. I am glad you get to be home with little Logan man and get ready for baby number two! What a wonderful time of life for your cute little fam, I am so happy for you guys!!!
I was right there with ya when I decided to stay home. I agree with everything your sis said. It was all true for me. And things really did fall into place for us, though at times I didn't know how it ever would.
Congrats on your new job as a stay at home mom. It's harder I think some days than going to work, but the rewards are that much greater. You are a great Momma and will be to baby #2 also. So excited for you guys.
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